I’ve always felt I needed to explain myself to people. To family. To friends. To random strangers on the internet. Felt I needed to justify the way I feel, What I’m doing, What I want, What I don’t want. Everything felt like it needed an explanation because I didn’t want to be poorly judged or misunderstood. But WHO CARES. People are going to think what they want to think about you. Let them! Stop trying to validate & explain every little move you make.
I post Daily Devotionals on my Instagram story because that’s my favorite way to start my morning. First thing when I clock into work in the morning, I check the date and open up my book to my daily scripture. It reminds me Who is in control, reminds me to practice gratitude always, reminds me to love people, and to set good intentions for my day. I genuinely think it brings light to my day and helps me be a better person to those around me. So of course I want to share that with others! Does it make me perfect? No. Not even close. I have Faith but that doesn’t make me a saint.
I also post a bunch of running/workout content. I am passionate about health and fitness; it’s a huge part of my life. Does that mean I have to be super athletic all the time? No definitely not, I actually suck at a lot of sports.
I post about going out/drinking/eating, I post about my husband, about my dog, about clothes, about makeup, about books, about Harry Potter, about W H A T E V E R.
The point is, I have many sides. Many interest and many parts of my personality that make up who I am as a whole. Society likes to categorize people with labels so that they can pretend like they know them. You can’t do that. You can’t assume you know a person based on one fragment of their life. People aren’t that simple.
I’ve been asked several times about the ‘sexy’ photos I occasionally post on my Instagram. “How does your husband feel about those pics?” “What about your Faith??” “Don’t you think you’re sending the wrong message?” “What about younger girls who look up to you?”
Literally anything you do, someone will find a way to criticize it. So if you are constantly walking on egg shells, living for other people’s approval, you are not LIVING! I don’t post photos of my body because I need approval from random strangers. In fact, I get more shade than anything for posting those photos. I post them because I work hard for my body. It is strong and capable and gawd forbid it can be SEXY! *gasps*
Being a woman is a beautiful thing. But somewhere along the lines, society decided it was shameful to show too much of a Woman’s body. It is very natural for me to be sexy. Or more so, for me to feel like being sexy…lol So I will not be sorry for posting these type of photos. I will continually try to unlearn the toxic notion of feeling like showing my body is disrespectful or offensive or shameful.
Sometimes I let the remarks above get to me. And I hate that. Every once in awhile I have to remind myself that just because someone has an opinion of me, doesn’t mean it is valid. I know who I am, and I can be strong, smart, sexy, kind, faithful, funny…whatever. I don’t have to fit into a category just to make others feel more comfortable.
Sorry for the rant. Some things just need to be said. Thanks for coming to my TED talk! lol love y’all, thanks for reading!